Just in case you didn’t know, Amy Schumer is an American comedian. She came fourth on the fifth season of NBC’s Last Comic Standing, and second on Comedy Central’s Reality Bites Back. She now has her own show on Comedy Central.
At age nine what people wouldn’t know about Amy is that her family went bankrupt, her father was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and her parents divorced years later. She attended South Side High School in Rockville Centre, New York where she was voted both “Class Clown” and “Teacher’s Worst Nightmare” upon graduation in 1999.
In a recent inspiring speech Amy shared an intimate experience that changed her view of herself and her confidence forever. The incident she talked about was having sex with a boy when she was in college. Here are the very important points she made to take note of…
Getting confidence from the wrong places
Throughout her speech Amy makes several comments about the way she used to feel in school and college such as,
“Day after day, I could feel the confidence drain from my body.”
“I felt faceless, nameless.”
“Getting attention from him felt like success.”
Amy commented that at one point, “All my self-worth was based on what you can see.” Her level of confidence was linked to how she looked.
Can you relate to feeling similar things?
I’m sure you can like many of us. But is this really a healthy way to move through life?
When you’re looking for confidence in the wrong place are you ever likely to find it?
Being ridiculously loveable
Thankfully Amy came to realise linking her confidence to how she looked each day didn’t serve her in any way.
She adopted a new outlook that helped her feel about herself every day. “I am loveable” is one of the thoughts she has that enables her to generate her own inner confidence.
What if you could wake up every day with that same feeling simply because you choose to?
What if you didn’t need to be look a certain way or be validated by anyone?
How much stronger would your confidence be if it was something you gave to yourself from the inside rather than waiting for someone else to give it to you from the outside?
How different would every day be if you told yourself that you are ridiculously loveable just for being you?
Reinvent yourself today
Deciding to work on your self-confidence is a choice. Deciding to love yourself is a choice. Deciding to believe that people will, and do, love you just for you is a choice. It’s a choice you can make now.
When times feel hard or you feel you are being faced with a situation where you feel your confidence is draining away faster than you can keep hold of it, know that moment is the perfect time to reinvent your confidence!
You are running the show
I want you to know that you truly are in control of your self-confidence. And I want you remind yourself every day that…
“You are loveable, you are smart, and you are worth the best in life.”
You are the creator of your confidence
As Amy Schumer closed her speech she talked about now being ‘a hot-blooded fighter’ who is fearless. Challenge yourself to feel that way today. Look in the mirror each day, whoever you are, whatever your age, and talk to the boss that is your reflection.
Just as Amy now lives with this belief, I think it too will stand you in good stead for attacking school and college life with an unstoppable nature about you.
“I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story — I will”
Written by Katie Bunting